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The Pacific Ocean is REAL

Did you know that the Pacific Ocean is real? I’m here to tell you that it’s real, it’s fierce and it’s cold. I just swam in it. Of course, we all know that the Pacific Ocean exists, but since I’ve only seen it a very few times in my life, I forget that it’s out

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Leaving wiggle room

Sometimes, love can blind us. Last week, we had to put our beloved hound dog Mac to sleep. I loved this dog in a way that was irrational. I wondered how we ever were a family before he was the king of our farmette. He was gentle and noble and stunning. He was also a

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Holding On

I hesitated to write about this because I would do just about anything to take away my own depression and don’t like that it is part of my life. I have learned, though, that not making eye contact with this illness doesn’t make it go away. I know that February can be a hard month

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Would I jump on a horse to make this happen?

I’ve been spinning my wheels a lot lately, obsessing over things that seem broken. I needed someone to help ground me, so I signed up for a goal-setting workshop. The workshop included a helpful presentation about core values and goals that helped me find some clarity. I was in this goal-oriented, “searching for meaning” state

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Raising strong girls isn’t for the faint of heart

  I must confess that I sometimes wonder if being a feminist makes my job of raising girls harder. Sometimes, the idea of girls who smile and nod and do what they are told without ever questioning sounds pretty dreamy. Being a Women’s Studies minor in college prepared me to fight for women’s rights; it

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God Bless the People of Every Nation

  Strangers regularly point to my twin daughters and ask me, “Where are they from?” An airport shuttle driver asked my husband Bryan a few years ago, “Did you get them from Haiti?” My husband responded, “No” and kept moving. I was a little embarrassed. Bryan answered the question, I suppose, but he wasn’t exactly

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Short runway, long flight

  We had lunch recently with an old friend. He asked about my parents and my siblings and after a while, I asked about his. Everything about his face and body language changed. He went from being animated to being unable to complete full sentences. When we got back in the car, I said to

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To the mom who cancelled Christmas: I feel you

Growing up, we had a friend whose mom lost her mind one Christmas Eve. As I recall the story, the kids were all acting up and fighting; someone didn’t want to wear a tie to church and someone was whining and I’m sure they’d all had too much sugar. The mom, who was probably exhausted

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