Chalkboard Triage

I used to think that being a good steward of our time meant using each moment efficiently. Now, I’d like to not make the people around me miserable with impossible expectations.  A few years ago, my husband fell during a mountain bike race and had to have major knee surgery. The twins were starting kindergarten

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When your children change the way you see things…

There is no doubt in my mind that adopting black daughters has given me a new lens through which I view the world. I see the details of our daily life differently than I did before.  For example, in the county where we live, there are lots and lots of cotton fields. In the fall,

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Fear doesn’t get to be the boss of me…

I love calendars and goal setting and the hope of a brand new year. A few days ago, my husband Bryan and I sat down and looked over the goals we’d set for 2018. As I looked back over the year, I noticed that some things that had been priorities just disappeared. We’d had to

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Easy is good…

I’m not really a foodie. I’m happy for people who find joy in cooking really complicated recipes, but I’m more of a “let’s feed these masses and get moving with our next activity” kind of mom. Over the years, I’ve discovered that if a recipe has more steps than tacos, it’s probably not going to

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What healing looks like

I broke my dog. I still can’t believe this happened, but I hit our dog Winter in the driveway with my car. Of course it was an accident, but I cried for days. After multiple vet visits and surgeries, he’s back home with a wired-shut jaw, a face and head covered with stitches and a

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What comes next?

I have a friend whose teenage daughter was being treated badly by an old friend. The teenager was finally ready to admit to her mom, “My friend isn’t on my side. Not really. She might not be fully against me, but she’s certainly not for me. I thought she was and I want her to

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Slow down and do your job…

Moving from Atlanta to Mississippi after seminary was a bit of a shock. They are both in the South, but the pace is really different. In Mississippi, people drive slower and talk slower; they don’t race around like crazy people as much. There is more lingering. In my work at the church, I felt like

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Who does she think she is?

Our daughter Elizabeth played rec soccer last spring. I’m pretty sure she was in it for the shoes, but we decided to give it a try. It turns out that she’s pretty fast and soccer was actually a good fit. There was a slight issue, though, with some of the soccer parents.  One dad regularly

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